Dropping Baggage…so I could Travel

As 2016 comes to an end, I can honestly say that I have had one of the best years of my life. Was it less difficult than other years? No, But it was a tremendous year of growth, self discovery, and action. With all of these things came my desire to travel more, to be more open minded and more self assured. In the last year alone I have travelled to Dallas, Atlanta, Chicago, Los Angeles, Raleigh and Trinidad and Tobago. I will also be traveling back to Dallas in the next few weeks and to South Africa in December. This is the most I have traveled in a span of one year.

Prior to this year I was totting around a lot of baggage and it made it impossible for me to do the things I wanted to do such as TRAVEL. From 2013 to 2015,  I was in a difficult relationship that added a massive amount of stress to my life and spiraled me into a deep depression that I did not even realize I was in. The person that I was with during those two years would use his words to break down my spirit, morale and confidence. I can’t even tell you the amount of times that he told me the that I was worthless, a horrible person and that no one but him liked me. All of these things that he said fell in to the category of him “Keeping it real”.

I was afraid to leave because I was living in a city where I knew no one except for him, his friends and his family (none of whom I liked or liked me). Some way, some how I was able to finally leave, find my own place to stay and then a month later move back home with a new job.

Part of the reason why I made it such a point to Travel More this year was because when I was in that relationship I wasn’t allowed to do anything that I wanted to do, go where I wanted to go, or discover the things I wanted to discover. As soon as I moved back home it literally felt like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders and although I had to start all over again, it felt absolutely amazing to not have that person as baggage in my life weighing me down.

The sites, the sounds, and the people that I have met this year while traveling has been amazing and so worth it. And don’t get me wrong, I am not bashing my ex or holding on to the past. What I am doing is sharing my story to encourage other young women who may be going through the same things I was going through.

I encourage anyone of you who is dealing with baggage to drop it and start living the life God has ordained for you.

Planning for a Wedding

Planning a wedding is hard…planning a wedding 8900 miles away from the location, is even harder.

As I said before, my sister is getting married in December and her wedding will be taking place in South Africa. She is currently in the Midwest doing her MBA so on top of being in school and trying to keep everything together, she is also planning her wedding.

When I was younger, I always envisioned me having a hand in the planning of my sisters wedding. Being there when she picked her dress, when she went to pick out floral arrangements and bridesmaids dresses…you know the whole shebang, but as life turned out that’s not how things were meant to be. Ever since my sister left to go to college at Stanford University at the age of 17 (I was 15 at the time), she and I have never lived in the same state (except for a 1 year stint I did in Dallas, Texas with her). So my dreams of being hands on in the planning of her wedding was just a dream that should have died many years ago lol.

Since I realized that I would not be able to help her with planning her wedding, I felt that as the maid of honor, I should try to help with something. So I am helping in the planning of her 30th/Bachelorette party that we are having for her next month.

As we did last year we are headed back to Dallas and have invited all of our friends to come with us. Last years festivities were amazing. We drank, we laughed, we danced and most importantly, WE ATE (Because if you dont know by now, Dallas has some bomb restaurants).

Whats next???…South Africa

My next BIG trip is coming this December and that will be to  South Africa. This will be my first time to the “Motherland” and the furthest Ive ever traveled before. The reason that I have the chance to go to South Africa is because my sister is getting married there. Her nuptials just add to the excitement of me being able to travel to South Africa. The great thing about us going in December is that, that is when its South Africa’s summer! Anyone who knows me knows that I love nothing but warm weather. Not having to layer my clothes or wear a jacket is the best thing in life to me (but I digress).

Because we are there for a reason, my time will be spent, of course, with my sister and family preparing for her wedding, but I am hoping that my boyfriend and I will be able to do a few tourist things while we are there. Unfortunately for me when our flight was booked I did not think that I would be able to take a lot of time off from work so I will only be there for about 5 days. Most of those days will of course be spent doing wedding stuff.

There are two things that I want to make sure that I do when I am in South Africa and that is go to Robben Island and take a tour of a township. I should be purchasing Robben Island tour tickets today (Lord Willing), but trying to organize a tour of the townships is looking to be a more difficult task. The biggest thing that my sister reminded me was that I need to be careful of scammers because in South Africa there are a lot of them. So purchasing tickets  online does make me super hesitant, but im trying to do my due diligence and look up things on trip advisor and other reputable travel sites to ensure that I am not being SCAMMED!!!!

We are about 70 days out from the wedding and I still don’t have all of my accommodations for my boyfriend and I, but once I get a chance to sit down and really look at all the things that still need to get done Im sure I will be good to go.


Fort King George

The final place that we visited while in Tobago was Fort King George. Fort King George was built in the 1780s. The country has done a great job of preserving this site and here you can still find old cannons, a prison, barracks and a bell tank. Although this tourist site has many historical artifacts that are present the thing that had us most at awe were the views. We were lucky enough to go to the fort right as the sun was setting and this was the best thing that I had ever been a witness to. Seeing the sun set and looking down at the whole island really made me realize how truly blessed I am to see some of the sights that I was able to see on that trip.