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5 Things you can do Today to Kick Depression 😁

Listen, I use to hate when I was depressed and people would say to me “Happiness is a Choice”…but lowkey ….it is.

If you were like me, you’re probably rolling your eyes right now. What that expression is saying is that you have the power to make specific steps to become happier. I didn’t know this before but I recently discovered that the following 5 steps can really help in making you happier.

1) Get off social media

Bruh, I’m trying to tell you. Nothing makes you more depressed than looking at others happy, living their best lives and doing things you aren’t doing. Remember, nobody posts their struggles and social media is just a highlight reel. It’s a fake metric to life and it will only make you more depressed. So take a break and get your mind right.

2) Write down your blessings each day

Thinking about what I do have, and all the blessings in my life has done tremendous for my mental health. What do I mean? Well think about it, being alive is a blessing. Having sight, all your limbs, having another day to make things better in your life are all blessings. When I started to really think about what I do have and how things could be so much worse, it really helped me to stop feeling so depressed and to be more grateful.

3) Make a plan to get out of your depression

There are several reasons why you could be depressed. Money issues, relationship issues, work, school…life is hard man, I get it. But, what steps can you take to make things better? If you just broke up with your boyfriend and you want to stop being sad, write down what you will do to get better each day. Will you join a work out class? Become more involved in church? Whatever it is, make that plan. Have specific steps and check them off. Having a plan makes the world seem less big and your mind less frantic!

4) Spend a certain amount of time alone

This one is something that I wish I knew before. People would always say “you’re depressed, go out and have fun.” Uhhhh sure but my fun would usually land me drinking tequila shots with my friends and me internally still feeling low. It wasn’t until I was by myself, going through the motions with my thoughts that I was able to properly create coping mechanism for my depression. Trust me, this wasn’t easy at all but it was necessary for me to sit with my thoughts, confront them, then combat them.

5) Stay away from drugs and alcohol

This was probably one of the most crucial things for me. As hard as it is to say it, I may have drank too much in my day. Any time I was stressed, sad, mad,happy, anxious …anything, I would drink alcohol. But guess what…the next day the problems were still there and I would feel even more guilty about wasting my time drinking rather than trying to come up with solutions. This would then make me even more depressed. And then the depression cycle would continue.

These steps aren’t a overnight thing. You need to keep at it and work on it each day in order to get your mind right. It’s not going to be easy but starting with these steps will for sure help you down the path of a depression-less life!

-Kim C

Trinidad – Late Post

As I mentioned before, I didn’t get the chance to post as much as I would have liked to in the last year, and I am hoping to get better this year. Last year I was fortunate enough to travel out of the country twice, and one of those places being Trinidad. If you have read my other blogs then you know that Trinidad is a place I travel to on a yearly basis due to my whole family still living there. So of course I had to go again in 2018 to see my family and decompress from my first year within the MBA program. I actually went twice last year, and these are those pics from my fun!

 

 

Mexico – Late Post

In the last few months, I have not been the best at posting what I am living through. The reasons being that being in an MBA program is extremely difficult and hectic so as much as I want to post every little experience, I just can’t. I wanted to take the time to post some of my favorite travel moments that occurred in 2018 starting with Cabo San Lucas, Mexico

Living in Chicago

I moved to Chicago May 27, and I have been adjusting to the dynamics of this new city.

I moved here knowing one person, and not really knowing much about Chicago outside of what Ive seen in the news. But nonetheless I was excited about this new adventure and how I would adjust.

The last time I moved to a new city where I only knew one person, I was miserable. Mostly due to the space I was in during that time period. I was 24, and in a bad space. Like many in their early 20s my focus was all wrong and I never looked at things from a positive lenses.

I knew that my move to Chicago wouldn’t be the same for several reasons, but mostly because of my mentality, maturity, and tenacity. I have also become very content being alone, watching Netflix’s, reading and praying. Because I’ve found this inner peace and happiness. I knew moving to Chicago would be a breeze.

I am six weeks in and I have to say this city has grown on me. I currently live on the North side of the city in the most affluent area of Chicago. Not knowing anything about Chicago I had no idea of the socioeconomic status of my current place of residency. Everything was mostly based off of convenience and access to my specific housing requirements. The view from my apartment is amazing and I can see the lake and the Sears Tower. Every Wednesday and Saturday there are fireworks from the lake, which is a nice little bonus. Everything in my neighborhood is clean, safe and within walking distance.

View of the Sears Tower from my bed

View from my balcony

I have also developed a small friends circle with people who are also MBA interns living in Chicago for the summer. This actually surprised me the most as I historically have shied away from making bonds with new people due to my anxieties and trust issues.

I have six more weeks left here and I intend to really enjoy every moment of it. I am so GRATEFUL to God allowing me this opportunity to move to a new city by myself and really push myself to flourish!

South Africa part 1: The flight

Prior to heading to Cape Town, South Africa I had to get myself mentally prepared for the flight there. The flight is not for the faint of hearts, and if flying isn’t your thing, this trip can be difficult. The total time of travel was 24 hours. My boyfriend accompanied me on this trip and I don’t think that I would have been able to do that long trip by myself.

The itinerary that we had, had two parts. The first being a 14.5 hour flight from Washington DC to Dubai, and then  a 9.5 hour flight from Dubai to Cape Town. While traveling to South Africa, we had to spend an extra hour in Dubai’s air space due to fog that delayed all flights from landing and taking off. Luckily for us we did not miss our connecting flight as many other people did.

We flew Economy Class on Emirates. This was my first time flying with Emirates and I must say that even in Economy class on this airline I felt extremely comfortable. As soon as we were in the air the flight attendants gave each person a pouch that included a sleep mask, a tooth brush, toothpaste and socks. Each passenger has a tv screen on the back of their seats and this allows passengers to stayed entertained while in the air. There is a plethora of movies, radio stations, and tv series to choose from.  About an hour and a half into the flight we were fed lunch. I had the lamb, and I swear this was the best meal that Ive had on an airplane. A few hours after that we were fed a “snack” which was a small, one person, cheese pizza. Then a few hours after that we were fed breakfast. Alcoholic beverages were also included with meals. Needless to say between DC to Dubai, we were fed very heavily. The same occurred on our flight from Dubai to Cape Town.

In all the flight wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. There wasn’t much turbulence and all the flight attendants were very accommodating. After our flight was over it was almost as though I was sad to get off of the plane because it was so comfortable.

Argyle Waterfall 

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Our last full day we were in Tobago we ventured out to Argyle Waterfall. Argyle Waterfall is about an hour away from where we were staying. As we drove to the waterfall we passed some of the most beautiful views that I’ve ever seen in my life. Driving along the coast for about 60% of the trip my boyfriend and I were wowed by the beauty we witnessed.

Once we reached the attraction we had to pay about $60TT dollars to be admitted into the attraction. From the entrance to the main waterfall it takes about 15 minutes or less to walk. As you get closer and closer to the waterfall it become more difficult to walk as you have to walk up and down slippery rocks and moist leaves to get to the waterfall.

my cousin walking to the waterfall
walking along the trail to the waterfall
my sister and I pictured with bamboo

The first and main waterfall isn’t all that there is to it. Once you arrive to this point there’s an option to climb the waterfall and go up to the several other levels, pools and waterfalls that are higher up on the mountain. Being that I was not confident enough with my mountain climbing skills I elected to stay at the bottom as my cousins and boyfriend made their way to the top.

As my boyfriend began climbing, one of my cousins kicked off his shoes and told him that climbing the waterfall would be easier without shoes. Apparently if you have “American Feet” and you are not used to walking around outside barefooted this is not the right move. My boyfriend climbed the whole waterfall barefooted and in pain. This made for many laughs after the fact but he learned his lesson.

My boyfriend and cousin climbing the trail to get to the top of the waterfall
My cousins and boyfriend at the top of the first waterfall

Maracas Bay Beach

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*Maracas Bay lookout

Although we didn’t get the chance to do or see a lot of things that I would I have wanted my boyfriend to experience, we did get the chance to go to one of my favorite places in Trinidad and that is Maracas Bay. People have their critique about Maracas and I know many people in my family are probably tired of it but for some reason no matter how many times I come to Trinidad I always try to go to Maracas. I am always told that there are way better beaches in Trinidad but for some reason this is the place I love the most. When I am there I am flooded with so many memories of grandparents, and my youth.

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*view of Port of Spain

The views driving to Maracas beach are amazing. We were able to stop and take some pictures at a “lookout”  of Port of Spain (the capital city). I can’t recall ever stopping there in any of my visits to Trinidad, so seeing the whole city in that manner was a true treat for me. After leaving the lookout we proceeded to Maracas bay where we were able to stop at another lookout before getting to the actual beach. The views of Maracas are breathtaking, but one thing that Maracas is known for is bake and shark. Bake and shark consists of a piece of bread like substance that is fried and a piece of fried shark. After getting the bake and shark you would then dress it with a number of different sauces and veggies. Bake and shark shacks are all over Maracas beach, but the most famous shack is one that was featured on Andrew Zimmerman’s Food Network show Bizarre Foods. This shack is called Richards Bake and Shark. We were in a very large group (as some people in our group had never been to Trinidad) so we made it a point to go to this shack. As I had mentioned before I have not been to Trinidad in five years so making sure that I go to as many places as I could was important to me but going to Richards was quite disappointing. I’m guessing since they have gotten some notoriety from the tv show they have had to produce at a higher rate daily and this has brought down the quality. Other people in our group really enjoyed it, as it was their first time eating it but I took two bites from my sandwich and was done with it. My boyfriend was completely unimpressed by the bake and shark as well lol. But the trip was still a good trip as we were able to see some extremely beautiful views exclusive to Trinidad.

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*Maracas Beach