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5 Things you can do Today to Kick Depression 😁

Listen, I use to hate when I was depressed and people would say to me “Happiness is a Choice”…but lowkey ….it is.

If you were like me, you’re probably rolling your eyes right now. What that expression is saying is that you have the power to make specific steps to become happier. I didn’t know this before but I recently discovered that the following 5 steps can really help in making you happier.

1) Get off social media

Bruh, I’m trying to tell you. Nothing makes you more depressed than looking at others happy, living their best lives and doing things you aren’t doing. Remember, nobody posts their struggles and social media is just a highlight reel. It’s a fake metric to life and it will only make you more depressed. So take a break and get your mind right.

2) Write down your blessings each day

Thinking about what I do have, and all the blessings in my life has done tremendous for my mental health. What do I mean? Well think about it, being alive is a blessing. Having sight, all your limbs, having another day to make things better in your life are all blessings. When I started to really think about what I do have and how things could be so much worse, it really helped me to stop feeling so depressed and to be more grateful.

3) Make a plan to get out of your depression

There are several reasons why you could be depressed. Money issues, relationship issues, work, school…life is hard man, I get it. But, what steps can you take to make things better? If you just broke up with your boyfriend and you want to stop being sad, write down what you will do to get better each day. Will you join a work out class? Become more involved in church? Whatever it is, make that plan. Have specific steps and check them off. Having a plan makes the world seem less big and your mind less frantic!

4) Spend a certain amount of time alone

This one is something that I wish I knew before. People would always say “you’re depressed, go out and have fun.” Uhhhh sure but my fun would usually land me drinking tequila shots with my friends and me internally still feeling low. It wasn’t until I was by myself, going through the motions with my thoughts that I was able to properly create coping mechanism for my depression. Trust me, this wasn’t easy at all but it was necessary for me to sit with my thoughts, confront them, then combat them.

5) Stay away from drugs and alcohol

This was probably one of the most crucial things for me. As hard as it is to say it, I may have drank too much in my day. Any time I was stressed, sad, mad,happy, anxious …anything, I would drink alcohol. But guess what…the next day the problems were still there and I would feel even more guilty about wasting my time drinking rather than trying to come up with solutions. This would then make me even more depressed. And then the depression cycle would continue.

These steps aren’t a overnight thing. You need to keep at it and work on it each day in order to get your mind right. It’s not going to be easy but starting with these steps will for sure help you down the path of a depression-less life!

-Kim C

MBA Chronicles: Power of THE PUSH

 

I am two weeks away from business school orientation and I feel like I have a million and one things to get done. My to do list comprises of finishing up pre-course work, back to school shopping, getting my immunization records to the school, deferring my loans, buying stuff for my new apartment, registering for “Math Camp”, doing work for the career services team, and so much more.

The pre-course workload is way heavier than I thought it would be and I’m starting to regret going on vacation and doing nothing for two weeks. Usually in situations like these I would get 1) super flustered  2) just quit and say I’m not doing it and just take the 0% grade. But it’s crazy when you want something bad enough you will somehow find your inner grit, and get sh*t done. Yesterday I had a very late start to my day (my sleep pattern is way off ever since returning from vacation). I went to the library around 5pm and started doing work. I went home right before the library closed at 9pm, and kept doing work. Before I knew it, it was 2:30am! Between the hours of 5pm-2:30am I dedicated my time to my school work. Was I tired? Hell yes, but what kept me motivated was my end goal of making six figures after I graduate, and how badly I want to reach that goal.

In undergrad I wasn’t the best student, but I wasn’t the worst. When I applied myself I made Deans List 4 out of the 8 semesters I was there. I slept a lot in undergrad and hardly ever stayed up past 12am studying. If something was hard I’d bullsh*t my way through it to get a decent enough grade. Back then I was too lazy to see the importance of hard work. Fast forward to today, Ive had a 9-5 job in corporate America that I hated. I have been underpaid for most of my career and the work that I was doing was not interesting to me at all. Going through that experience really has given me the ” The Power of the Push”. 

I’m not sure where I got this term from, maybe I made it up…but this is a term that has been repeating in my head over and over again since I’ve been in this season. “The Power of the Push” is what separates great from mediocre, the strong from the weak, and those who want it to those who don’t.

For most of my life I have always felt as though there are just some people who just succeed because they are simply smarter. As I navigated through corporate America, I realized that its not about smarts all the time. Its about who works harder, who wants it more, who pushes harder to get what they want. I mean a great example of this is Donald Trump. His vocabulary is limited, he isn’t well read, and he isn’t the smartest cookie in the batch but some how he has been able to elevate himself to the highest office in the United States (granted him being a white man has probably helped a lot too, lol).

My will to succeed is so strong that I can not see anything except GREAT things ahead of me. I am willing to put my blood, sweat, and tears into this. Something that I can’t say Ive been willing to do for anything in my life thus far. So as I begin my business school career I am going to promise myself to keep pushing, to not allow outside factors disrupt my grind, and to always remember the POWER of the PUSH!!!

Argyle Waterfall 

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Our last full day we were in Tobago we ventured out to Argyle Waterfall. Argyle Waterfall is about an hour away from where we were staying. As we drove to the waterfall we passed some of the most beautiful views that I’ve ever seen in my life. Driving along the coast for about 60% of the trip my boyfriend and I were wowed by the beauty we witnessed.

Once we reached the attraction we had to pay about $60TT dollars to be admitted into the attraction. From the entrance to the main waterfall it takes about 15 minutes or less to walk. As you get closer and closer to the waterfall it become more difficult to walk as you have to walk up and down slippery rocks and moist leaves to get to the waterfall.

my cousin walking to the waterfall
walking along the trail to the waterfall
my sister and I pictured with bamboo

The first and main waterfall isn’t all that there is to it. Once you arrive to this point there’s an option to climb the waterfall and go up to the several other levels, pools and waterfalls that are higher up on the mountain. Being that I was not confident enough with my mountain climbing skills I elected to stay at the bottom as my cousins and boyfriend made their way to the top.

As my boyfriend began climbing, one of my cousins kicked off his shoes and told him that climbing the waterfall would be easier without shoes. Apparently if you have “American Feet” and you are not used to walking around outside barefooted this is not the right move. My boyfriend climbed the whole waterfall barefooted and in pain. This made for many laughs after the fact but he learned his lesson.

My boyfriend and cousin climbing the trail to get to the top of the waterfall
My cousins and boyfriend at the top of the first waterfall

Preventing Zika

I think that my boyfriend would agree that one of the biggest things that we made sure to do on our trip was to NOT GET BIT BY MOSQUITOS. This was a task that took appropriate planning before we got to Trinidad. The first thing I did was go onto the CDC site and see what their recommendations were for preventing Zika. As I read all of their recommendations the only one that I found the easiest was using bug spray. Of course that was a given but I felt like I needed a little bit more protection. So I went on Amazon and ordered two types of mosquito repellent wristbands (one that was cheaper and another that seemed more legit). I also ordered the OFF clip-on fans that spray the repellent as its clipped to your belt loop. And of course I purchased the traditional OFF bug spray.

I may have gone a little OD with the amount of repellents I had but the whole time I was in Trinidad I only received maybe a total of 3-4 mosquito bites. Each day my boyfriend and I would start our day by spraying on the bug spray then maybe once again during the day and then again before we went to bed. We both wore wristbands and I wore the clip-on for part of the time I was there.

Although my cousins did make fun of me by all the things I had to prevent  from getting bit, this was something serious to me, hahaha.

It’s about to be a Boat Party


My sister is getting married later this year, and a sizable amount of her fiances family came along with us on the trip. In order to celebrate their engagement, they decided to rent a boat that sailed around Store Bay, Tobago. The owner of the boat also cooked us food and blasted soca sounds the whole time we were on the boat. With boozs, music, food and family this was the perfect atmosphere for an engagement party to take place. Not only was it fun to be sailing around the bay with my family all around me but the views as the sun set were so priceless.

Three of my cousins
My cousin and I
My three cousins, my aunt, and their two girlfriends
My Aunt and cousin
My sister, father and I
My cousin and his girlfriend
My cousin and his girlfriend
My mother and I

My cousin with his nephew
Aunt and Cousin
Daddy with two of his four sisters
How we got to the boat

There were also many smaller islands that we sailed around that are uninhabited. One of these islands is called “No Mans Land”. My cousin explained to me that on one side of the island the water is completely cold and on the other side it is warm. We weren’t able to dock and find out for ourselves if this were true but it was still an interesting fact to have in the back of my mind.

After the sun had set the party did not stop. The boat continued to sail around the bay for another hour and we were able to enjoy one of the best sightss I had ever viewed. The moon in all its glory shun down on the bay and served as our main light of the dark night .

Samaan Grove, Tobago

In order to get to Tobago from Trinidad, there are two options. One can either take the boat or the plane. The boat takes about 2.5-3 hours while the plane takes 20 mins. Advantages of taking the boat include being able to take your car with you and the cheaper cost, while the obvious advantage of the plane is the short amount of time it takes. Considering I had no car to bring with me and I hate traveling for long periods of time , I elected to take the plane while some people in my family took the boat.

In all of my times of going to Trinidad I have only been to Tobago once before this last trip. I was about 9 years old the last time I went and I was taken there by one of my aunts. All I can remember doing was waking up, going to the beach, eating, going back to the beach, sleeping then repeating it the next day. I was curious to see how much Tobago had changed since my last visit and what activities we would embark on.



Once we arrived to Tobago we went straight to one of the four villas that had been rented for my family in a gated community called Samaan Grove. Our accommodations were more than what I expected. Although not right on the beach each house had its own pool, very large updated kitchen, and bathrooms in every bedroom. The pools were amazing. I’m not much of a pool girl myself, but being able to swim at all our of the night was quite enjoyable. My favorite part about all of the properties were the landscaping. It was quite peaceful being around so many beautiful and exotic trees and plants.

We made it

The first four days of our vacation were spent in Trinidad. I had hoped to introduce my boyfriend to a lot of my favorite things that Trinidad has to offer but without a car and without the convenience of car service apps such as Uber, it was extremely hard for me to do that. It saddens me to know that he will leave Trinidad never trying doubles 😦 or ever eating the jelly of a coconut, but I think that he has gotten a slight sense of the culture hanging out with my family. The first four days were filled with family members arriving to Trinidad, lots of food and liming. Very uneventful but still relaxing (at least to me).