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5 Things you can do Today to Kick Depression 😁

Listen, I use to hate when I was depressed and people would say to me “Happiness is a Choice”…but lowkey ….it is.

If you were like me, you’re probably rolling your eyes right now. What that expression is saying is that you have the power to make specific steps to become happier. I didn’t know this before but I recently discovered that the following 5 steps can really help in making you happier.

1) Get off social media

Bruh, I’m trying to tell you. Nothing makes you more depressed than looking at others happy, living their best lives and doing things you aren’t doing. Remember, nobody posts their struggles and social media is just a highlight reel. It’s a fake metric to life and it will only make you more depressed. So take a break and get your mind right.

2) Write down your blessings each day

Thinking about what I do have, and all the blessings in my life has done tremendous for my mental health. What do I mean? Well think about it, being alive is a blessing. Having sight, all your limbs, having another day to make things better in your life are all blessings. When I started to really think about what I do have and how things could be so much worse, it really helped me to stop feeling so depressed and to be more grateful.

3) Make a plan to get out of your depression

There are several reasons why you could be depressed. Money issues, relationship issues, work, school…life is hard man, I get it. But, what steps can you take to make things better? If you just broke up with your boyfriend and you want to stop being sad, write down what you will do to get better each day. Will you join a work out class? Become more involved in church? Whatever it is, make that plan. Have specific steps and check them off. Having a plan makes the world seem less big and your mind less frantic!

4) Spend a certain amount of time alone

This one is something that I wish I knew before. People would always say “you’re depressed, go out and have fun.” Uhhhh sure but my fun would usually land me drinking tequila shots with my friends and me internally still feeling low. It wasn’t until I was by myself, going through the motions with my thoughts that I was able to properly create coping mechanism for my depression. Trust me, this wasn’t easy at all but it was necessary for me to sit with my thoughts, confront them, then combat them.

5) Stay away from drugs and alcohol

This was probably one of the most crucial things for me. As hard as it is to say it, I may have drank too much in my day. Any time I was stressed, sad, mad,happy, anxious …anything, I would drink alcohol. But guess what…the next day the problems were still there and I would feel even more guilty about wasting my time drinking rather than trying to come up with solutions. This would then make me even more depressed. And then the depression cycle would continue.

These steps aren’t a overnight thing. You need to keep at it and work on it each day in order to get your mind right. It’s not going to be easy but starting with these steps will for sure help you down the path of a depression-less life!

-Kim C

South Africa Part 7: Robben Island

We had one more day in South Africa and we were going to use that last day discovering Cape Town and visiting Robben Island.

We purchased tickets to Robben Island prior so that we knew for sure we would have a place on the tour. They offer about 3 tours a day. Each tour takes about three hours. An hour each way to and from the island and an hour touring the island. We took a small boat to Robben Island.

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On the boat from Cape Town to Robben Island

The first part of the tour was the bus tour around the island. We had a guide who gave us the history of Robben Island and its many uses. Unlike what most think, Robben Island was not only for prisoners, it had many other uses including a place for leapers to live. The views from this island are amazing and breathtaking.

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Robben Island main entrance

The final stop of the tour was the prison where Nelson Mandela spent 18 of his 27 years imprisoned. The tour started in a holding area where prisoners would first be brought to be booked and processed. While we all found a place to sit, a man came to the front and began telling us some of brutal history of the prison, and he revealed that he himself was also a prisoner for many years with Nelson Mandela. The tour continued as he walked us around the prison grounds telling us about the different sections of the prison, and some of the things that prisoners were forced to do. The tour finally concluded with us passing by the cell that was designated to Nelson Mandela.

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Entrance of the prison that held Nelson Mandela for 18 years

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Holding cell of prisoners

 

Grounds of the prison

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Mandela Prison Cell
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Our tour guide was a prisoner here during the same time as Nelson Mandela

Being on this tour was a great way to end our trip to South Africa. Walking the same steps of one of my heroes was a transient feeling that I will never forget. Walking the grounds and thinking of being imprisoned behind those walls for years was a sad feeling that reminded me how much people had sacrificed all over the world for black rights.

Whats next???…South Africa

My next BIG trip is coming this December and that will be to  South Africa. This will be my first time to the “Motherland” and the furthest Ive ever traveled before. The reason that I have the chance to go to South Africa is because my sister is getting married there. Her nuptials just add to the excitement of me being able to travel to South Africa. The great thing about us going in December is that, that is when its South Africa’s summer! Anyone who knows me knows that I love nothing but warm weather. Not having to layer my clothes or wear a jacket is the best thing in life to me (but I digress).

Because we are there for a reason, my time will be spent, of course, with my sister and family preparing for her wedding, but I am hoping that my boyfriend and I will be able to do a few tourist things while we are there. Unfortunately for me when our flight was booked I did not think that I would be able to take a lot of time off from work so I will only be there for about 5 days. Most of those days will of course be spent doing wedding stuff.

There are two things that I want to make sure that I do when I am in South Africa and that is go to Robben Island and take a tour of a township. I should be purchasing Robben Island tour tickets today (Lord Willing), but trying to organize a tour of the townships is looking to be a more difficult task. The biggest thing that my sister reminded me was that I need to be careful of scammers because in South Africa there are a lot of them. So purchasing tickets  online does make me super hesitant, but im trying to do my due diligence and look up things on trip advisor and other reputable travel sites to ensure that I am not being SCAMMED!!!!

We are about 70 days out from the wedding and I still don’t have all of my accommodations for my boyfriend and I, but once I get a chance to sit down and really look at all the things that still need to get done Im sure I will be good to go.

 

Fort King George



The final place that we visited while in Tobago was Fort King George. Fort King George was built in the 1780s. The country has done a great job of preserving this site and here you can still find old cannons, a prison, barracks and a bell tank. Although this tourist site has many historical artifacts that are present the thing that had us most at awe were the views. We were lucky enough to go to the fort right as the sun was setting and this was the best thing that I had ever been a witness to. Seeing the sun set and looking down at the whole island really made me realize how truly blessed I am to see some of the sights that I was able to see on that trip.

It’s about to be a Boat Party


My sister is getting married later this year, and a sizable amount of her fiances family came along with us on the trip. In order to celebrate their engagement, they decided to rent a boat that sailed around Store Bay, Tobago. The owner of the boat also cooked us food and blasted soca sounds the whole time we were on the boat. With boozs, music, food and family this was the perfect atmosphere for an engagement party to take place. Not only was it fun to be sailing around the bay with my family all around me but the views as the sun set were so priceless.

Three of my cousins
My cousin and I
My three cousins, my aunt, and their two girlfriends
My Aunt and cousin
My sister, father and I
My cousin and his girlfriend
My cousin and his girlfriend
My mother and I

My cousin with his nephew
Aunt and Cousin
Daddy with two of his four sisters
How we got to the boat

There were also many smaller islands that we sailed around that are uninhabited. One of these islands is called “No Mans Land”. My cousin explained to me that on one side of the island the water is completely cold and on the other side it is warm. We weren’t able to dock and find out for ourselves if this were true but it was still an interesting fact to have in the back of my mind.

After the sun had set the party did not stop. The boat continued to sail around the bay for another hour and we were able to enjoy one of the best sightss I had ever viewed. The moon in all its glory shun down on the bay and served as our main light of the dark night .

We made it

The first four days of our vacation were spent in Trinidad. I had hoped to introduce my boyfriend to a lot of my favorite things that Trinidad has to offer but without a car and without the convenience of car service apps such as Uber, it was extremely hard for me to do that. It saddens me to know that he will leave Trinidad never trying doubles 😦 or ever eating the jelly of a coconut, but I think that he has gotten a slight sense of the culture hanging out with my family. The first four days were filled with family members arriving to Trinidad, lots of food and liming. Very uneventful but still relaxing (at least to me).