Often times I find that we make these new years resolutions and we never actually revisit them after January. I wanted to look at what I wrote down as my New Years resolution for 2018 and see if I was able to stick with some of what I wrote down. This is not only a means of holding myself accountable but also a means of encouraging myself to stick on the path that I am on and work harder at things that I wrote down. So without further ado, lets get into it!
- No more self silencing – This was something that was directed towards one person in my life who use to make me feel really bad about expressing myself. He was constantly criticizing me and making it seem as though everything that came out of my mouth was WRONG or STUPID (which was really funny because he literally was a person that had not one pot to piss in). This is what caused me to self silence as a means to not offend this person. I never had this issue with anyone else. Long story short, it was HIM not ME, and my life has been way better ever since we have broken ties. So I do not self silence and I guess I technically never really did.
- No More Comparing – Sadly, this again ties into #1. This person made me feel so crappy about myself that I was CONSTANTLY comparing myself to other women. I got rid of his negativity and began comparing myself WAY LESS.
- Self Preservation – I think that this year I have done a better job of self preservation but I definitely can do better. One great thing that happened to me in the last quarter of the year was that I began drinking way less and started being a little bit more conscience and aware of what I was putting in my body. I also tried to be aware of what I was watching and listening to, because as you may or may not know, all of that can really have an affect on your everyday life. I also began going to church on a weekly basis and utilized the word as a means of mental renewal.
- Using Social Media Less – I think that I had spurts of when I was using it less, but definitely not where I want to be. If you know anything, then you should know that social media is a tool that can really kill ones spirit.
- No complaining, Positive Outlooks Only – I have gotten way better at this! I try to be more aware of what I am saying and how I am thinking in general. This has allowed me to be less depressed and really push through the hard times.
- Be more prepared – Last year I wrote this because school was a real struggle for me and I felt as though I was lacking, but in reality I am not this ill prepared person.
- Work Harder – This is something that everyone can try to better at year over year. Work harder than your hardest! I did do that this past year, and I plan on doing it again in 2019!
I have said it many times, business school is not EASY. It is not a decision that you can make over night and just decide that you want to get an MBA. You have to be dedicated to it and decide that you are going to do it no matter what. Before you apply there are a few things that you should know beforehand:
- Rankings Matter – you should try to go to a school that is within the top 50, and has a strong alumni base. You will realize that when you are seeking out internships and job offers that who you know will help you A LOT. Also, schools within the top 50 usually have strong connections with specific companies that hire from your school every year.
- You will be Rejected – It is just the way of the game! There is no way that you will be able to get everything the exact way that you want it. When I first entered into school I had a vision for myself and what my first year would look like. I thought I would obtain my internship at the first conference of the year and I would be on the first year board of many clubs….WRONG. I was appointed to no positions, and I didn’t get my internship until Christmas Break (this is still very early). I also made it to the final round of FACEBOOK and wasn’t selected as the intern. In addition to that the coursework was super hard and my interviewing prepare wasn’t going so well. I was disappointed and felt as though I was a failure and that this was all a sign that I should just quit.
- You have to bounce back quick – As much as you get rejected, you will have to learn how to bounce back and overcome. You really don’t have time to dwell on rejection and since things move so fast you have to just Keep It Moving (KIM). Not letting rejection to hold you down is the only thing that you can do. And just as quickly as I was getting rejected from FACEBOOK, I had to interview with another company a few days later. I couldn’t allow my disappointment to hold me back and I had to keep what happened in the past and go out an get it (which I did!). I also had to overcome the rejection from the first year and eventually get selected to be on the leadership boards for my second year! (all of which hold more weight than first year boards anyways).
- You will lose friends – Look Ima keep it real with you chief, not everyone will understand the wave that you are on. Not everyone will understand how IMPORTANT this is, and they will begin to feel some kind of way about you hanging out with new people and not having time to do the things that you use to do. This happened to me. From certain people feeling left behind, or that I wasn’t giving them the same amount of time as I was my business school friends (which you will learn, you are always with due to school being such a big part of your life), I had to let it go and keep it moving. The main reason being that I didn’t have the mental capacity to attempt to fix relationships with people who didn’t understand why I was in school. If they couldn’t understand why I had hit ghost and the fact that I was trying to change my life, then they couldn’t be in my circle any longer.
- This will be your whole life – Yes, I said it. Business school will consume you. Your whole world will be school. You will have fun too, don’t get me wrong, but you will always be thinking about school. On your off days you will be in school studying, working on papers and projects. You will be applying to internships, reaching out to alumni or doing career prep. You will be attending events, and helping to throw events. School will be apart of you, and you will become apart of school, so get mentally prepared to always being busy, and always have something being due.
With all that being said business school is soooooo worth it. Just the amount that I am getting paid during the summer is a great reminder of why I came back to school and what Im trying to accomplish in my life. If you feel as though you can dedicate two years to increase you earning potential for the rest of your life, then Business School is def for you!