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5 Things you can do Today to Kick Depression 😁

Listen, I use to hate when I was depressed and people would say to me “Happiness is a Choice”…but lowkey ….it is.

If you were like me, you’re probably rolling your eyes right now. What that expression is saying is that you have the power to make specific steps to become happier. I didn’t know this before but I recently discovered that the following 5 steps can really help in making you happier.

1) Get off social media

Bruh, I’m trying to tell you. Nothing makes you more depressed than looking at others happy, living their best lives and doing things you aren’t doing. Remember, nobody posts their struggles and social media is just a highlight reel. It’s a fake metric to life and it will only make you more depressed. So take a break and get your mind right.

2) Write down your blessings each day

Thinking about what I do have, and all the blessings in my life has done tremendous for my mental health. What do I mean? Well think about it, being alive is a blessing. Having sight, all your limbs, having another day to make things better in your life are all blessings. When I started to really think about what I do have and how things could be so much worse, it really helped me to stop feeling so depressed and to be more grateful.

3) Make a plan to get out of your depression

There are several reasons why you could be depressed. Money issues, relationship issues, work, school…life is hard man, I get it. But, what steps can you take to make things better? If you just broke up with your boyfriend and you want to stop being sad, write down what you will do to get better each day. Will you join a work out class? Become more involved in church? Whatever it is, make that plan. Have specific steps and check them off. Having a plan makes the world seem less big and your mind less frantic!

4) Spend a certain amount of time alone

This one is something that I wish I knew before. People would always say “you’re depressed, go out and have fun.” Uhhhh sure but my fun would usually land me drinking tequila shots with my friends and me internally still feeling low. It wasn’t until I was by myself, going through the motions with my thoughts that I was able to properly create coping mechanism for my depression. Trust me, this wasn’t easy at all but it was necessary for me to sit with my thoughts, confront them, then combat them.

5) Stay away from drugs and alcohol

This was probably one of the most crucial things for me. As hard as it is to say it, I may have drank too much in my day. Any time I was stressed, sad, mad,happy, anxious …anything, I would drink alcohol. But guess what…the next day the problems were still there and I would feel even more guilty about wasting my time drinking rather than trying to come up with solutions. This would then make me even more depressed. And then the depression cycle would continue.

These steps aren’t a overnight thing. You need to keep at it and work on it each day in order to get your mind right. It’s not going to be easy but starting with these steps will for sure help you down the path of a depression-less life!

-Kim C

Being Still

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I have been away for a long time…

So, where have I been?

To put it quite frankly I have been away…BEING STILL. Yes, You read that right, The last few months I took time out to do the least, be still, focus on myself, and reevaluate many things in my life. In doing this I found the greatest gift of all…I found God.

Finding God honestly wasn’t my goal. I took time to be still because my life was not going the way that I wanted it to. I had, had and extremely stressful second year of my MBA program, and I had decided to separate myself, be by myself, and just be still with my thoughts. I will admit, when I first decided to do this it was 100% due to my depression. I didn’t have an awe inspiring moment of retrospective where I knew this is what I HAD TO DO to better myself. No, I just didn’t want to be around happy people because I felt so crappy. I was having a hard time finding a job that I wanted, and as I saw all of my friends landing their dream jobs. I was left feeling like God had forgotten me. I didn’t want to be around them as they were happy, and joyous. As they knew of their future plans and were making arrangements for their new lives, I was left wondering “Whats going to happen to me”. I just didn’t want to be around the swirling questions of “So, what are you doing next year?”, and me having to admit that I hadn’t achieved the goal that we were all in B-School for. This avoidance led to me wanting to be alone. Alone with myself, and thoughts.  I stopped going out with my friends, and even skipped graduation because I didn’t want to be bothered to be around people. I only really spent time with my boyfriend and my roommate. Other than that, I was withdrawn. I would drink and smoke to cope only to wake up the next day feeling even more depressed.

In the midst of this depression, I saw an IG post for a church about 20 mins away from my apartment. A girl who I use to be best friends with in high school had posted it. I then went to the churches IG page and began watching its content. I was immediately drawn to the messages, and I knew that I had to go visit this church for myself. I had been attending another popular church in my area, but I was only attending to check that box of ✔️Im going to church✔️Im a good Christian…so now God will bless me.  It didn’t better me, nor did I have a desire to change my life M-Sa. But this new church….it just felt different.

Im not going to lie, it wasn’t just an overnight thing. I didn’t walk in the doors of the church and my life just magically changed. I had to really lean in, and keep attending. This new church kept me coming back because it intrigued me, it made me want to read the Bible for myself and learn more. I still was battling with depression but going to church and learning about God and chasing after him slowly began to change my mindset. I stopped drinking and smoking. I was more conscientious of the media that I consumed. As I said, it wasn’t an overnight thing and there were times when I sat there and was like “What is all this for. Is God even real?” But when I would feel this way, I would give myself a few days of frustration and then come back push in even more to build a relationship with Him. I would pray harder, I would read my Bible more, and I would watch more sermons to get my spirit right. I even became heavily involved in my church to distract myself from my own thoughts.

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Me in Trinidad February 2019

Today I am able to honestly report that I am in such a GREAT SPACE. As, I said before this was not an overnight thing, and it took me some time to get to this space. If I had given up and quit with this journey I wouldn’t be where I am today. Mentally, and Emotionally, I am in such an AUTHENTIC happy space (authenticity is key). I attribute all of this due to me being STILL. The old me would have pushed more into partying, drinking and smoking to attempt to cope with the disappointments in my life but this time around I decided to do things differently. And with me doing so, I also found God. The best gift of my life.

I share this story to encourage you to not avoid your problems, not to drown yourselves in coping methods but to rather take time to be STILL. A Lot of time. Not just a week or a weekend. It might take months, but keep still until the atmosphere changes. Keep still and find enriching things to fill your time. Keep still and find God.

 

XoXo -Kim

 

Trinidad – Late Post

As I mentioned before, I didn’t get the chance to post as much as I would have liked to in the last year, and I am hoping to get better this year. Last year I was fortunate enough to travel out of the country twice, and one of those places being Trinidad. If you have read my other blogs then you know that Trinidad is a place I travel to on a yearly basis due to my whole family still living there. So of course I had to go again in 2018 to see my family and decompress from my first year within the MBA program. I actually went twice last year, and these are those pics from my fun!

 

 

It’s about to be a Boat Party


My sister is getting married later this year, and a sizable amount of her fiances family came along with us on the trip. In order to celebrate their engagement, they decided to rent a boat that sailed around Store Bay, Tobago. The owner of the boat also cooked us food and blasted soca sounds the whole time we were on the boat. With boozs, music, food and family this was the perfect atmosphere for an engagement party to take place. Not only was it fun to be sailing around the bay with my family all around me but the views as the sun set were so priceless.

Three of my cousins
My cousin and I
My three cousins, my aunt, and their two girlfriends
My Aunt and cousin
My sister, father and I
My cousin and his girlfriend
My cousin and his girlfriend
My mother and I

My cousin with his nephew
Aunt and Cousin
Daddy with two of his four sisters
How we got to the boat

There were also many smaller islands that we sailed around that are uninhabited. One of these islands is called “No Mans Land”. My cousin explained to me that on one side of the island the water is completely cold and on the other side it is warm. We weren’t able to dock and find out for ourselves if this were true but it was still an interesting fact to have in the back of my mind.

After the sun had set the party did not stop. The boat continued to sail around the bay for another hour and we were able to enjoy one of the best sightss I had ever viewed. The moon in all its glory shun down on the bay and served as our main light of the dark night .

Samaan Grove, Tobago

In order to get to Tobago from Trinidad, there are two options. One can either take the boat or the plane. The boat takes about 2.5-3 hours while the plane takes 20 mins. Advantages of taking the boat include being able to take your car with you and the cheaper cost, while the obvious advantage of the plane is the short amount of time it takes. Considering I had no car to bring with me and I hate traveling for long periods of time , I elected to take the plane while some people in my family took the boat.

In all of my times of going to Trinidad I have only been to Tobago once before this last trip. I was about 9 years old the last time I went and I was taken there by one of my aunts. All I can remember doing was waking up, going to the beach, eating, going back to the beach, sleeping then repeating it the next day. I was curious to see how much Tobago had changed since my last visit and what activities we would embark on.



Once we arrived to Tobago we went straight to one of the four villas that had been rented for my family in a gated community called Samaan Grove. Our accommodations were more than what I expected. Although not right on the beach each house had its own pool, very large updated kitchen, and bathrooms in every bedroom. The pools were amazing. I’m not much of a pool girl myself, but being able to swim at all our of the night was quite enjoyable. My favorite part about all of the properties were the landscaping. It was quite peaceful being around so many beautiful and exotic trees and plants.

Maracas Bay Beach

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*Maracas Bay lookout

Although we didn’t get the chance to do or see a lot of things that I would I have wanted my boyfriend to experience, we did get the chance to go to one of my favorite places in Trinidad and that is Maracas Bay. People have their critique about Maracas and I know many people in my family are probably tired of it but for some reason no matter how many times I come to Trinidad I always try to go to Maracas. I am always told that there are way better beaches in Trinidad but for some reason this is the place I love the most. When I am there I am flooded with so many memories of grandparents, and my youth.

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*view of Port of Spain

The views driving to Maracas beach are amazing. We were able to stop and take some pictures at a “lookout”  of Port of Spain (the capital city). I can’t recall ever stopping there in any of my visits to Trinidad, so seeing the whole city in that manner was a true treat for me. After leaving the lookout we proceeded to Maracas bay where we were able to stop at another lookout before getting to the actual beach. The views of Maracas are breathtaking, but one thing that Maracas is known for is bake and shark. Bake and shark consists of a piece of bread like substance that is fried and a piece of fried shark. After getting the bake and shark you would then dress it with a number of different sauces and veggies. Bake and shark shacks are all over Maracas beach, but the most famous shack is one that was featured on Andrew Zimmerman’s Food Network show Bizarre Foods. This shack is called Richards Bake and Shark. We were in a very large group (as some people in our group had never been to Trinidad) so we made it a point to go to this shack. As I had mentioned before I have not been to Trinidad in five years so making sure that I go to as many places as I could was important to me but going to Richards was quite disappointing. I’m guessing since they have gotten some notoriety from the tv show they have had to produce at a higher rate daily and this has brought down the quality. Other people in our group really enjoyed it, as it was their first time eating it but I took two bites from my sandwich and was done with it. My boyfriend was completely unimpressed by the bake and shark as well lol. But the trip was still a good trip as we were able to see some extremely beautiful views exclusive to Trinidad.

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*Maracas Beach

“I never knew where Trinidad was…”(this post was posted days after)

My boyfriend admitted to me yesterday that he googled Trinidad and to his surprise Trinidad was right off the coast of South America. I have told him the location of Trinidad before and when ever I tell people where Trinidad is I always tell them that it is right off of the coast of Venezuela. Literally right off the coast…. You can actually see Venezuela from Trinidad and vice versa. Venezuelans migrate to Trinidad, and Trinidadians migrate to Venezuela (my great-grandmother  being one of those people who actually moved to Venezuela to live). I have heard many different things about the actual distance from the closest point of Trinidad to Venezuela. Ive heard any where from 3 to 9 miles. I don’t know why but I was having a hard time finding this information on google. Either way, what I do know is that, Trinidad is was closer to Venezuela than it is to Tobago and any other Caribbean nation. And, the fact that my boyfriend was perplexed as to why its considered part of the caribbean and not part of South America is a valid reason to be confused lol.